Online dating - Red flags to watch out for
I coach the women who’ve been ghosted by a seemingly promising man on a dating app. And…I coach the women who’ve discovered their husband or partner has been leading a double life and connecting with other women on dating apps.
Are there really any good men on dating apps?? Yes!!! Many of my clients have found good relationship-ready men on dating apps including Bumble, Hinge and Tinder.
But, you have to be aware of the red flags… don't ignore them!
He love bombs you. For a love-parched person, early declarations of affection and frequent messaging can feel really flattering. But whoa back!! He doesn’t know you and you don’t know him yet. Yes, you’re a wonderful person, but if he’s being over-the-top keen right at the start when he knows less than 5% of who you are, chances are he’s done this to women people before.
He’s far away. It’s really easy for an emotionally avoidant person to appear available and really keen… at a safe distance. Lots of messaging and calls can create a false sense of intimacy with someone you don’t really know. Don’t create a connection with someone who’s far away if you want to be in a real relationship.
He’s always “busy”. Busy can be code for “I’ve got a wife and kids”. A really keen man will make every effort to be in touch. If he’s too busy to connect with you now, how would he be when you’re in a relationship?
He’s not reliable. Don’t accept flaky behaviour. Move on fast. Every one of my clients who is in a committed relationship with a man they met on a dating app says these men were consistent and reliable right from the start and always kept their word.
